Holiday Season (December 2018)

While ’tis the season to feel festive, ’tis the season for exhaustion too.

There’s something about the end of the year that is simultaneously exhilarating and depleting — giving our energy to others feels good, but we can be left with nothing for ourselves.


How are you feeling right now? 

Take a second or two to check in with your body.

Are you scrolling on your phone, squinting to read this email? Are you hunched over at a desk? Maybe you’re standing at your kitchen table, trying to get kids out the door.

What if this holiday season you give to others — and give to yourself, too?

What’s a gift that benefits everyone on your list? Self-care.


It may sound cheesy — put on the oxygen mask first before putting it on anyone else — but taking care of you is essential to taking care of others.

When I spend all of my time caring for others, I’m left depleted, exhausted, and even on edge. While I seem to be my most generous self, I’m not my best self. I’m easier to trigger, less able to hear, and even disconnected from myself.

Self-care to me means a daily workout and a nightly bath.

What feels like self-care to you? 

A walk around the block for fresh air? A massage? Perhaps it’s staying in bed all day, watching your favorite TV show.

Whatever it may be, take care of you this season.


Here are some ways to do it:

  • Write yourself a love note: list the small things you love about yourself and keep it nearby so that you can re-read it when you’re feeling blue. 
  • Set an intention for the new year that includes how you’ll take care of you. 
  • Learn to hear your inner self — the one that senses your feelings and needs. Give that self as much attention as you do for others.

Share it big: tell the world your #OneSmallThing self-care ritual by sharing it on social media. 

Share it small: if you want more of an intimate connection, send it directly to friends, family, or colleagues via email/text/phone.

Share it with me: I’m building a collection of these small actions that turn out to have real value and meaning for others. I hope you will share how you prioritize you by replying to this email.